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TENDER REMBERANCES of EARLY EXPERIENCES – RLA Image Resources

As I read and listen to the news about all the things going on, it hurts my heart terribly. Why can’t it be better than it is? There has to be an answer that works for all concerned. I know the world changes, but things should always continue to be better, not worse.

I want to relate experiences I had when I was a little girl. I was probably about 6-7 years old221_0016 and lived in the city (Brooklyn, NY). There, I found myself busy with all my toys, friends, school and my parents. I played a lot alone, as I was the only child. All of my cousins were older than I was or didn’t live close by.  My friends and I had particular times when we could play outside. We would go by each other’s home, but mostly we played outdoors. I liked it. We had plenty of room to run around, play hide n’ go seek, ball, potsy (chalk boxes with numbers) that we play with a coin or something. The point was you had to go from #1 to #5 (or #8) without touching down with two feet. What great memories. I couldn’t pick up a phone and tell them (friends) to ask if they could come by. In fact, I didn’t use the telephone unless a relative called, and my parents told me to say ‘hello’.

TRYING TO FEEL A LITTLE INDEPENDENT

So, this is a part of the life of this little girl. I hope it doesn’t sound like I didn’t enjoy my time as a little girl. I did, and I learned to play by myself; being Mommy, Daddy, Brother, Sister, Teacher and Friend (to myself J ) while I play house with my dolls. Don’t get me wrong, I loved my childhood. It was at special times that I had wished I had a sibling.

I liked the time when dinner was completed, dishes done and put away. My parents were ready to come outside and visit with our neighbors, as we children would go the two or three houses (farthest we could go) one way or the other to play. In others words, I could go play up to three doors away from where I lived. We had to be in a space where our parents could see us at all times. Whatever adults were outside would assume that they had permission to watch us and chastise us if we were doing anything that appeared beyond what our parents would have permitted. I do remember parents would call me or anyone else out, if they thought we were beyond where I was allowed to go, or do anything which I wouldn’t do if they (parents) weren’t right there watching me.

SPECIAL VISITORS WHO VISITED THE NEIGHBORHOOD OFTEN (Like Everyday)

What am I getting at by telling you these things? Well, I heard something on the news today, and it talked about the relationship or lack thereof that people have with the police these days. I’ve thought about that a lot recently upon hearing so much stuff over the news. Our relationship with the police was great, because we knew them, and they knew us. Yes, they came in two’s and walked what they called ‘a beat’ (some of you may remember this). We knew their names, and they knew ours. Our parents knew them by name. They would greet us (children) and our parents. In fact, we’d see them coming from way down the block and would run to meet them. They would ask us how we were doing in school, explain to us the importance of listening to our parents, etc. It was nice. I think having that interaction made the police more human and not just a person in a uniform. They seemed really interested in us, and what we were doing in school, etc.  It was great days, and somehow we were reassured we were on the right track as our parents would encourage us to continue.

Sometimes, as I think back or watch the news today, I wonder what happen to the neighborhood. Oh, should I ask.. what is a neighborhood today? People come and go. We wave to one another, then we go inside our home and stay there until it’s time to come out again. On occasion, there might be a moment or two to visit. In some cases, people become friends.  ‘Suburbia’ is what we call outside of the city limits. We stay in our houses for the most part and mind our business.  In the city limits, there is energy. Kids running around, pets outside with the owners and neighbors visiting on the porch or in the yard. Basically, people moving about. It was a scene that was very active and lots going on. People were visiting together talking about the day’s events or catching up on what’s been happening with one another.

 CONNECTION & INTERACTION

I miss that today. I see my neighbors from time to time. What about you? Do you visit or interact with your neighbors on a regular basis? I believe more people do that when they live in an inner city environment. My street is really nice, but most of the folks on this street do not know one another (I would assume). Even neighbors on one side of the street or the other generally wave and get in the car or stay in the house. There are rare times when you meet and spend quality time together. How does it work for you in your neighborhood? Children bring the grownups/adults together. No children, few connections.  It doesn’t exist. However, I am not saying every single neighborhood is exactly like this. I have talked with folks who talk, greet and are acquainted with people in their neighborhood. This doesn’t necessarily mean they go in and out of each other’s home at all. It just means the bonds are deeper.

Coming from an inner-city, you have no choice other than to speak. Speaking/walking with people to/from the train station, or others walking past your house will often smile and say ‘hello’. What a movement that would be here where I live. People are kind, but not very open. Most park their car, get out and head straight into the house. They stay there until they need to get in their car again and leave. I am very used to the drill now, so it doesn’t really bother me. What’s nice is seeing their face now and then, knowing that all is well, and spending more than a couple of minutes before running into the house. The children do so much better at this community ‘thing’ and personal people connection.

EVERYDAY RUNNING

However, I have to run now. I’ve got to get in my car, run to the store and come back to my home space. See you and speak to you in a week or two, if there is anything worthwhile to say. Otherwise, I will post the next issue of interest that I feel may help me and others make changes in the way we communicate and view our fellow man/woman/child.

GETTING TO KNOW ONE ANOTHER

I wonder if there was a movement started where people who didn’t know one another would clearly want to meet one another. I would also like to see our policemen visit our neighborhoods just to say hello and all of us to say hello back. That would be great and lead to an open dialogue and knowledge of the people living in the city. I believe it also opens up the neighborhood to one another. We become aware who lives amongst us and be an example to other communities. Happy Talking!  It is really wonderful and gives the opportunity to see each other as people who have much to offer one another as human beings.

I hope this will start someplace, and I hope that our local police department will join us in meeting the people residing in the streets of our city. Happy Living! I, Rita wish you well, and hope that the information I’ve offered will be beneficial to you and your neighborhood.

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Are you… (ahead of)… yourself?

Two minds better then one.

Two minds better then one.

Sometimes, I can get ahead of myself. Has that happened to you? Have you been in deep thought about an idea, something you propose and not sure how it will be perceived by others? What you may not understand about Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting is that we are a different type of interior decorating company. We love to explore various levels of decorating with our clients. When they think they’ve got their idea down pat, we challenge them to try something they’ve never tried before. This is a fabulous way to keep learning about oneself. What could be better than to learn something ‘new’ about yourself?

Home decorating and design is  bringing new ideas and processes of change into a house to make it a ‘home’. Our purpose is to meet with people like yourselves (our clients or would-be clients) to determine where their thinking is regarding what they want and anticipate for any space changes in their home. It is a great time to dig deep into your thoughts, use  as many resources as you have and come up with great ideas. There are many ideas out in the marketplace, and it doesn’t mean they all fit your space as you expect.

  • Here’s where we come in. I have a couple of analogies to share with you. How many times have you decided to try something different for a meal at home? You may have even had it before, but you want a different variation. If you don’t go to a cookbook or ask someone who has cooked it before how they prepared it, you will most likely end up preparing it the same way you always have.
  • Here’s another example for you. What if you have a rash on your hand (or other parts of your body)? You may try to put some sort of salve on it, or at the very least, try to find someone else who has experienced this same malady. But instead, you decide to seek professional help from a doctor to tend to your issue. This is best, because you may spend time applying all sorts of remedies to your problem only to waste time and money in the process. This applies also to the decorating process of your space. There is so much out there in the decorating marketplace. If you’re seeking ‘different’, we may even look into wholesale to expand your variety of products for use in your home.

In addition, not only do we care about you, but about some other folks you may personally know or are acquainted with. They may be elderly and/or in poor health, having to leave their home. We need to talk immediately. Contact us today, and we’ll talk.  Also note, we are excited to work with DIY clients. We want to know what your perception is  for your space. We can add to it, and just think what will come out of this collaboration. Come on, let’s get started.

Two minds better then one.

The point I’m trying to make is defining when you are wasting time and money, rather then working with a professional decorating company such as Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting. We’ll help you step outside of your comfort zone and find other ways of styling your home. 

How much did you pay for your home? I don’t really want to know. It’s just a rhetorical question. My point is don’t deny yourself from making your home what you really want it to be  by not examining the fundamentals of the reason for the changes. Searching magazines,  going to furniture stores and getting many opinions can cause confusion. Keep thinking about who lives in this space is the crux of the matter; it’s the determination of everyone having a piece of their personality included in  your plan.  When a friend, neighbor or relative has their home decorated a certain way, it only means it works for them, but not necessarily for you. Personality is a key ingredient and essential in decorating. Give your imagination a chance to be opened up to the possibilities for your space. For as many people that occupy a common space, it’s important to get input from as many occupants as possible. Let’s try it..together. Please fill in contact sheet and return to us.

WHAT’S A DAY WORTH TO YOU?

“Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end.  It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s when you’ve had everything to do, and you’ve done it.”  (Margaret Thatcher)

My day begins with a big thank you to my maker.  I will be the best person I can be,  to meet and greet others with a smile and offer words of encouragement. After all, it’s a great day to be alive; it’s a gift that should not be wasted, and each day presents a new challenge.

My day also involves talking and working with homeowners who wish something different. They are tired of the way the space in their home or home office  is being used or wasted. They have ideas about the use of the space, but may not get around to actually making the changes.  Where Accentuate comes in is to inspire the ideas of our clients and add to them, thereby, giving them a finished picture of what can be done. And then, there are clients who do not know what they want to do. They just want something exciting and inviting for the space. Having  us share in this experience is very rewarding. I love the chance to see the space as a clean canvas to create on.

What’s a day worth to you? Is it being able to spend more time with your family and friends, is it doing something special for yourself,  is it to begin or end a project that requires your full attention, or is it the day that you should contact us to begin your room project?

Now that we are into this beautiful time of the year…Christmas Holiday’s…, we shape up our homes to look their best when we get together with family, friends and co-workers to celebrate this awesome time of celebration.  Also at this time, you decorate and spruce up your space to be beautiful, welcoming and very holiday-ish. If you’re like me, you stand back and admire your creation with a happy smile and a pleasing heart about your design.

What’s a day worth to us? It’s to have the opportunity to write this blog and introduce you to Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting, if you do not already know us. We want to hear from you. As mentioned earlier, we work with you in consulting  and planning your project. The next big Holiday after Christmas will be New Year 2013. We wish you well in the new year, and hope you will continue to think about…. What’s A Day Worth To You?  We are happy to bring you this message and look  forward to visiting with you once the Holiday’s are over. Plan early and get a head start. Have us provide you a personalized plan from Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting to begin your project, or have us help you with it.  You may reach us at http://www.accentuatehomestyling.com .

Part of this season is the creative presentation of your decor that you decorate with. You may even be gearing up for a Holiday party, which again brings you into the decorating mode. One idea for a Christmas centerpiece is to use colorful fruit, green and red peppers along with Christmas colored candle, along with a few special ornaments in a fabulous bowl or special holder.

Christmas Centerpiece

Christmas Centerpiece

It strikes a great harmony within  the space,  and it certainly makes you and others  take notice of  what a special time this is.

Once the Holiday’s are over, keep color in your space and do not overcrowd your room. A day worth spending in your special designated room is worth a million dollars, and we would love to consult and help you plan out your space for comfort, enjoyment and peace. Start 2013 by booking your consultation and planning process with us and keep remembering what the day is worth to you. Make it abundantly bright.

What Would Your Home Say To You……If It Could Talk?

WHAT WOULD YOUR HOME SAY TO YOU……IF IT COULD TALK?

When I thought of this question, I knew it was something to share. What would your home say to you…..if it could talk?

 It’s talking to you right now, and you’re not listening. We all know houses don’t talk, but they sure give off lots of hints. Maybe, they’re hints we give ourselves.

I’m taking some liberties here and using my imagination to address this issue. I believe it’s a fun question that may involve some straight answers. What would you say if you had to answer this question aloud? Fortunately, you will not have to do that. All you’ll have to do is think about it seriously to know how to alleviate any decorating and organizing issues facing you in your home.

Here are some of the things I think anyone’s home might say to them…..if it could talk.

  • I have been feeling pretty neglected for awhile now.
  • I hear you say some not so nice things about the way I look.
  • I’ve noticed you’re gone a lot, working so hard, and what about all the extra things that must get done in one day? You’re not too happy when you come home, and you definitely do not have time for me.
  • You don’t invite friends over to enjoy me anymore. I used to get so many compliments. Now, hmmm…very little.
  • My style and décor seems outdated, plus I am a little bit frazzled due to the disorganization.
  • You have so many things tucked into my space. I recognize there’s no room for people to really walk or move around. It seems very cluttered; sometime claustrophobic.
  • What did I do to make you not like me anymore?
  • Would it be fair to tell you how much I’d appreciate looking more stylish?
  • I would love to try a new color on my exterior and/or interior walls, maybe even a better looking floor and possibly some new furniture and accessories. I heard you talking about a more modern kitchen and/or bath that would show me off. Sometimes, I get annoyed when you are in the bath with the old lighting, not so great looking shower, and by the way, please keep your clothes on. You’re not as young as you used to be, you know. I know, I know I probably will get nothing now for that remark. Anyway, I am seeking rooms that are bright, cherry and inviting.

I would really stand out and be noticed if my walls could have beautiful colors and décor on them. I can imagine people saying how beautiful I am. I would feel so good, not to mention how happy it would be to see you smile. Then, you’d pay me lots of attention.

This is just a few of my thoughts. I could go on and on. Now, I understand you are very busy. Believe me, I hear all the conversations. There are the many hours at work, running the children to their various school activities, evening meetings, weekend activities with  family/friends. There are rare moments when you have a little time to pay me some attention and then it’s pretty sad for me to hear the things you say.

I am asking you to please FIX ME. You have talked about hiring an interior decorator to spruce me up and make me feel like singing (if I could). I’ve heard talk about a company that focuses on homes like me who feel so neglected. They call themselves Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting. They can make me clean, stand out and be noticed, and yes, they will work diligently and help you set up time and a budget. You probably feel like you cannot afford them. They will help you figure all that out.

 Oh, I can’t wait! I’m getting carried away just thinking how different I would look and feel. I would say words like uplifting, sophisticated, glamorous and organized. Wow, just the sound of such words would show the sun beaming in on me more brightly, the brilliance of the new paint, my new flooring and not to mention the cool look of the room with the ‘just right’ furniture and décor.  Thank you, my lady for taking the time to read what I am feeling. I know everything will be fine now, and what I have to say from that point on will be something that not just you should hear, but it shall be a look that I will display for all to see. I can expect lots of people to come and see me. It’ll be like old times. I will be so well dressed. If only I could talk, things could be different. I can only hope that once you’ve read this, you will at least ask. My Lady of the house, help me feel better, and I know you be happy for me too. Thank you. I love you My Lady of the house and look forward to seeing everyone who lives within my walls come home each night.

Now, you know what I would say to you, if I could really talk. All I can hope for is you will see how sad I am with my bland walls, stuff all over my rooms and nothing inviting for you to truly enjoy when you arrive home. Help me feel better, so you can feel better. Thank you, and I love you.

Note: This is how creative the mind is. When you think beyond just a wall, a floor, a room, there is so much more to discover. Today, your home is wishing for something new and different. It’s all about creativity. Hope to hear from you soon.  Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting – 469-261-0675. Our website is: http://www.accentuatehomestyling.com. From there you can reach us on Facebook and Twitter. Allow your imagination to open up and expand your home into a magnificent place of peace, joy and inspiration. Rita

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