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ASK FOR HELP… Or Should You?

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Who would you ask to help you do something, or would you be reluctant?

    Have you hesitated to ask someone for help for fear of rejection or embarrassment? Why do you think it’s hard for some people to ask? Would you ask for help when things become difficult, OR  would you push through it no matter what? Would you just pretend nothing was wrong? I, personally believe for some it’s pride that may jump in and cause a person to feel embarrassed. Maybe, it’s just hard to accept help, and easier to not ask. I, your writer have had this happen to me. I assume that if I ask someone to help me, they would probably say… “I can’t.., don’t have time, no, maybe later” (of course that may never come). So, there have been times that I had to do something that would have gone much better with two people, but now, because I didn’t ask for help, it’s only me.

What is an idea? It’s a thought or suggestion as to a possible course of action. Ideas will be maximized when more than one opinion, suggestion or thought is provided. Think back, how many ideas have you offered to others, only to have them look at you like you’re strange, or ignore what you’ve said and go on with the conversation? Worse yet, they flat-out tell you ‘it is’

Since I am an interior decorator, I see this often when it comes to decorating people’s home or small office. People want to elaborate on their ideas for their space. You sometimes listen (good thing) and other times, your mind is telling “no”, but you continue to smile. I may say “that’s a great idea” only if I really feel that way. If not, I don’t knock their idea off the table, but I may ask them to elaborate more, as I interject with something that would be pleasant and add to their idea. Maybe it’s something I’ve done before, or thought about using as an idea. Nevertheless, there is sometimes when people are adamant about using something that isn’t going to do anything for the room at all. I’ve done it, and I knew it wasn’t anything I would do for myself, but it’s not about me. My point is not to be superficial, but recognize that the idea may be a good one…for that person’s taste.

So when do you actually ask for help? What would it take? Would you ask someone at work (who you weren’t exactly friends with, or a stranger (if it were necessary) or then, a friend or relative? Or, is it just easier to do-it-yourself? There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing-it-yourself, but think of how you could expand on your ideas with someone else? This is what we do to help do-it-yourself(ers) to see the joy and excitement behind sharing ideas. I really get excited with them when I can offer them a way of getting what they propose. Money is often the cause of not getting what they want, or picking something that they won’t be able to live with for more than a week. Do you know anyone whose had an issue like this or just cannot stand the choices they’ve made while in their decorative and creative mode?

Knowing when to ask for help…is not always easy, but it is easier than you think. And, you should! Most people never mind helping someone else when it necessary or needed.  Asking is the key. Pride often steps in before you and cancels out your thought to ask or the words to speak….Help!!! Don’t let your pride or mind-reading skills (you just know that person will say “no” or look at you strangely for asking) . You never know, unless you ASK. And yes, you definitely should.

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Image….It goes where you go and it talks!

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RE.- Up and getting ready for a change.

So, here I am, talking about image, and I must mention that image has a place in everything. Everything you do has the  ability of making you form an opinion of “I like, or I don’t like”.  Example: you see a home from the outside. You form your opinion of what that home looks like on the inside or who lives there. There is an immediate feeling about that home.  Hence, your opinion is based on the silent image the house portrayed to you, the lawn, the appearance of the outside of the home, color, size, and other factors. This judgement is made in seconds, not minutes. The particular feeling about this house  will be remembered until something else replaces it.

It’s the same way when you see someone. It doesn’t have to be anyone you know. You look at a picture of someone and the opportunity arises for you to come in front of that person before any words are spoken. Based on the fact you have no knowledge of this person,  you form an opinion, perhaps based on how they dress, how they look, their home, car, way of speech and other type of preconceptions already held. This takes place in seconds!

Image is a sensory experience or a mental picture of oneself or an object. We are all in a place to make judgement calls when we read something, hear something or see something. We, often times, don’t  realize we’ve done it. How about talking to someone on the telephone that you’ve never seen, never met and know nothing about. It could be a wrong number. What does that person look like in your mind’s eye? You have an image based on the voice. Yes, it’s human nature. We react probably more than we act. I want to tell anyone who is reading this blog that image is a part of your everyday life. What we see, experience through someone else remains so unless something else comes to take its place. Image changes from one moment to the next. At times, it may give you a different opinion after the first reaction. The same applies to you, as a person. You see someone or someone sees you without any introductions; a perfect stranger. You size up this person in just a few seconds. You think you know a lot about this person, but really you know nothing more than your eyes can see. You don’t even know their voice tone, the colors they like, or wear most often, etc.

Image is fascinating. Your sensory perception begins to work hard when you are at a place where there lots going on. In a crowded place, you may see many people for the first time. You have already formed so-called opinions of each one; some more than others. You go to visit someone, but even before you reach your destination you’ve formed an opinion of  how things are going to go; who will be there and your thoughts of who they are and what they do. Then, once you’ve reached your destination, what are your thoughts? You may have forethought of what you think will happen and the people you will deal with. Therefore, based on that determination, you like  it or you don’t. Do you always have a reason why you like or don’t like someone or something? I like to write about image, and in fact, I will probably do a radio show about how important image is, and everyone has one. It is an opinion, or sometimes even a judgement,  by another person who you may not have ever met. While I speak of image, I want to be sure we all understand that it happens in silent mode at times. We do, at times, remember and still judge others based on the first image of connection.

It is almost impossible to meet someone for the first time and not form an image of that person. In fact, in my mind, it doesn’t happen. There is always an opinion formed for those we meet the first time to the 50th, 60th, 100th time. We are always making  judgement calls on one another, and none of us are perfect. Therefore, we should note we are connected to one another as humans, and it is normal and natural to prejudge or assume, although this is not a positive action. What would be nice is if we didn’t do all this pre-judging, and just let emotions and thoughts come in a quiet, good way. It is always nice to see if you can really find out the truth about what you’re thinkinghe people you hear about and haven’t met. As you can see this topic really interests me. I actually used to give talks to colleges and major companies about projecting  positive image. There is only one opportunity to make a great first (1st) impression. Why have I blended this in with my decorating? Because, it’s essential that people acknowledge themselves as a bigger part of the message the home is portraying. After all, when someone compliments you on your home or anything else, they have already formed their opinion about both, and they like you.

Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting offers online and in person consultations to assist you in building a decorating plan for your next DIY project. We look forward to hearing from you.

Are you… (ahead of)… yourself?

Two minds better then one.

Two minds better then one.

Sometimes, I can get ahead of myself. Has that happened to you? Have you been in deep thought about an idea, something you propose and not sure how it will be perceived by others? What you may not understand about Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting is that we are a different type of interior decorating company. We love to explore various levels of decorating with our clients. When they think they’ve got their idea down pat, we challenge them to try something they’ve never tried before. This is a fabulous way to keep learning about oneself. What could be better than to learn something ‘new’ about yourself?

Home decorating and design is  bringing new ideas and processes of change into a house to make it a ‘home’. Our purpose is to meet with people like yourselves (our clients or would-be clients) to determine where their thinking is regarding what they want and anticipate for any space changes in their home. It is a great time to dig deep into your thoughts, use  as many resources as you have and come up with great ideas. There are many ideas out in the marketplace, and it doesn’t mean they all fit your space as you expect.

  • Here’s where we come in. I have a couple of analogies to share with you. How many times have you decided to try something different for a meal at home? You may have even had it before, but you want a different variation. If you don’t go to a cookbook or ask someone who has cooked it before how they prepared it, you will most likely end up preparing it the same way you always have.
  • Here’s another example for you. What if you have a rash on your hand (or other parts of your body)? You may try to put some sort of salve on it, or at the very least, try to find someone else who has experienced this same malady. But instead, you decide to seek professional help from a doctor to tend to your issue. This is best, because you may spend time applying all sorts of remedies to your problem only to waste time and money in the process. This applies also to the decorating process of your space. There is so much out there in the decorating marketplace. If you’re seeking ‘different’, we may even look into wholesale to expand your variety of products for use in your home.

In addition, not only do we care about you, but about some other folks you may personally know or are acquainted with. They may be elderly and/or in poor health, having to leave their home. We need to talk immediately. Contact us today, and we’ll talk.  Also note, we are excited to work with DIY clients. We want to know what your perception is  for your space. We can add to it, and just think what will come out of this collaboration. Come on, let’s get started.

Two minds better then one.

The point I’m trying to make is defining when you are wasting time and money, rather then working with a professional decorating company such as Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting. We’ll help you step outside of your comfort zone and find other ways of styling your home. 

How much did you pay for your home? I don’t really want to know. It’s just a rhetorical question. My point is don’t deny yourself from making your home what you really want it to be  by not examining the fundamentals of the reason for the changes. Searching magazines,  going to furniture stores and getting many opinions can cause confusion. Keep thinking about who lives in this space is the crux of the matter; it’s the determination of everyone having a piece of their personality included in  your plan.  When a friend, neighbor or relative has their home decorated a certain way, it only means it works for them, but not necessarily for you. Personality is a key ingredient and essential in decorating. Give your imagination a chance to be opened up to the possibilities for your space. For as many people that occupy a common space, it’s important to get input from as many occupants as possible. Let’s try it..together. Please fill in contact sheet and return to us.

WHAT IS ABOUT TO HAPPEN?

I’m taking a big breath, because Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting is making some changes; changes that will have a positive effect on our prospective clients and current clients. Pretty intriguing, huh?

To put it plainly, we want to say a special hello to everyone who follows us and calls on us to aid them with their interior decorating projects. We want to say hello to those who are meeting us for the first time. We are making a slight change, and a greater part of our focus will be reaching out to homeowner’s and Do-It-Yourself  interior decorating buffs. Our goal is to accentuate how change of thoughts and ideas in the broad term will allow us to meet them right where they are in their decorating decisions. From that point, we come together and reach out into the interior space where our thinking, their thinking and objectives will lend itself to go outside-of-the-box a little. It will encourage something new and different. Sounds exciting? Put on your imaginary cap and picture your space being renewed as you read this blog.

What if you already have furniture and/or decor that would work in the room specified for changes? That would be great. See, you’ve already reduced your budget needs.  As I describe this journey, and you begin to picture it in your mind, I hope you see the promise of collective thinking.  If you don’t have a budget made, we’ll help you put one together for your project. This way, you stay on point and know where you are budget wise all the time.

When you are ready or thinking about it, let’s talk. Talking never hurts in this instance. We will concentrate on your home and small office space. We can speak in person, on the phone, over Skype or in email, or all the above. It’s really about what’s more comfortable for you during this phase.  This will be your personalized plan, and  we will talk about what you want to do to make the change to your home/office space. What is going to make life easier and a joy to come home to? Comfort, relaxation and a sense of peace is what you deserve in a room designed by you, with our help to bring a big smile to your face. Say “bye-bye” to some things you’ve had for quite a while. Sometimes, it nice to offer to others who haven’t had that same experience or have nothing much to fill their wall or their interior space, except a door and a window. You’ll be able to take credit for the final WOW moment as you carry out the plan. You’ll work your plan and plan your work with the help of Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting. Keep up with us, and visit us. Leave us information to contact you. We will be available to help you, if you’re not sure of something in the plan. BULLETIN: There will be something else coming soon. You stay turned to us, and we will be very excited to tell you. Then, we want you to tell everybody else.

Thank you for your time, and we hope to hear from you soon. Our Facebook address is: http://www.facebook.com/accentuate.rla . We are on Twitter, Pinterest,  Houzz and Olioboards.  Peace to you.  Rita

Part 2: IS YOUR PERSONAL IMAGE A REFLECTION OF YOUR HOME?

  Today, our blog touches on the topic from a month ago: Is Your Personal Image A Reflection of Your Home?  Many readers sent me their opinions about this topic, and we had some great discussions. Thanks again to all who participated. I was so encouraged that I have decided to do a Part 2.

  Image in the dictionary says it’s an imitation, representation, or similitude of any person, thing, or act, sculptured, drawn, painted, or otherwise made perceptible to the sight, a visible presentation, a copy, a likeness,  an effigy, a picture, a semblance. Image spreads itself across lines into every part of life. Therefore, I feel it is an important issue and make a habit of exhibiting in a positive way. For the purpose of this blog, we are defining image as a personal likeness or reflection of a person’s image to their home image. Is Your Personal Image A Reflection of Your Home Image? – Part 2. This blog speaks to how your personal image and your home image are so closely related to one another. When you first see someone, without speaking a word, your thoughts begin to form and create who you believe that person really is. You may decide you don’t care for that person. What about the person’s age, where they live, how their home looks, what type of job they have, what type of car they drive; this,  all in a matter of a few seconds. What I want to point out is you cannot stop someone from thinking and forming their own opinions without correct information. Your home is a reflection of you.  A person sees you is exactly how they see your home in their mind. Does it matter? Probably not, but possibly so. Why? Because, it is much easier to spend a little time thinking about who you are, and reasons why you control the message you wish delivered. Do not leave that to someone else to do for you. Your home is your haven, your castle and your extension of who you are. Make the message real and true.

Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting is a different type of interior decorating company. We use ‘image’ as a major tool to complete the look of your home to represent the real you. No need for others to speculate, they will know just from your positive image; they will know that your positive attitude about self reflects the same message in your home life. We work with you, whether in person or through our E-Decorating process (online) assisting you in your Do-It-Yourself process of decorating. We believe image is purposeful to how you enjoy your home and lifestyle. It doesn’t matter whether you’re downsizing (a smaller space), up-sizing (a larger space) or right-sizing (staying right where you are), we work hard with you to help you reach this goal. You will feel empowered and reassured about how “we” reach decisions about the space in your home. We are your company of interest and image. We care about what you think, how we meet your needs,  and make it affordable for you as we go through the details of positive living in your home. So, the next time someone meets and greets you, they may be thinking how positive your demeanor represents you, or how negative they think you are. Please do not give anyone any reason for not thinking in a positive way about you. 

I want to express the fact that I have been writing and publicly speaking about the importance of  image in each person’s life for several years. I was a personal  image consultant and presented presentations to organizations and companies. I encouraged others to become aware of the silent message(s) they send to others. My purpose is to think about how you appear to others, so there are no regrets down the road. I am not stating this as the most important issue to you. It means sending a message you want to be remembered by. Then, the image you project will definitely count.

What Would Your Home Say To You……If It Could Talk?

WHAT WOULD YOUR HOME SAY TO YOU……IF IT COULD TALK?

When I thought of this question, I knew it was something to share. What would your home say to you…..if it could talk?

 It’s talking to you right now, and you’re not listening. We all know houses don’t talk, but they sure give off lots of hints. Maybe, they’re hints we give ourselves.

I’m taking some liberties here and using my imagination to address this issue. I believe it’s a fun question that may involve some straight answers. What would you say if you had to answer this question aloud? Fortunately, you will not have to do that. All you’ll have to do is think about it seriously to know how to alleviate any decorating and organizing issues facing you in your home.

Here are some of the things I think anyone’s home might say to them…..if it could talk.

  • I have been feeling pretty neglected for awhile now.
  • I hear you say some not so nice things about the way I look.
  • I’ve noticed you’re gone a lot, working so hard, and what about all the extra things that must get done in one day? You’re not too happy when you come home, and you definitely do not have time for me.
  • You don’t invite friends over to enjoy me anymore. I used to get so many compliments. Now, hmmm…very little.
  • My style and décor seems outdated, plus I am a little bit frazzled due to the disorganization.
  • You have so many things tucked into my space. I recognize there’s no room for people to really walk or move around. It seems very cluttered; sometime claustrophobic.
  • What did I do to make you not like me anymore?
  • Would it be fair to tell you how much I’d appreciate looking more stylish?
  • I would love to try a new color on my exterior and/or interior walls, maybe even a better looking floor and possibly some new furniture and accessories. I heard you talking about a more modern kitchen and/or bath that would show me off. Sometimes, I get annoyed when you are in the bath with the old lighting, not so great looking shower, and by the way, please keep your clothes on. You’re not as young as you used to be, you know. I know, I know I probably will get nothing now for that remark. Anyway, I am seeking rooms that are bright, cherry and inviting.

I would really stand out and be noticed if my walls could have beautiful colors and décor on them. I can imagine people saying how beautiful I am. I would feel so good, not to mention how happy it would be to see you smile. Then, you’d pay me lots of attention.

This is just a few of my thoughts. I could go on and on. Now, I understand you are very busy. Believe me, I hear all the conversations. There are the many hours at work, running the children to their various school activities, evening meetings, weekend activities with  family/friends. There are rare moments when you have a little time to pay me some attention and then it’s pretty sad for me to hear the things you say.

I am asking you to please FIX ME. You have talked about hiring an interior decorator to spruce me up and make me feel like singing (if I could). I’ve heard talk about a company that focuses on homes like me who feel so neglected. They call themselves Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting. They can make me clean, stand out and be noticed, and yes, they will work diligently and help you set up time and a budget. You probably feel like you cannot afford them. They will help you figure all that out.

 Oh, I can’t wait! I’m getting carried away just thinking how different I would look and feel. I would say words like uplifting, sophisticated, glamorous and organized. Wow, just the sound of such words would show the sun beaming in on me more brightly, the brilliance of the new paint, my new flooring and not to mention the cool look of the room with the ‘just right’ furniture and décor.  Thank you, my lady for taking the time to read what I am feeling. I know everything will be fine now, and what I have to say from that point on will be something that not just you should hear, but it shall be a look that I will display for all to see. I can expect lots of people to come and see me. It’ll be like old times. I will be so well dressed. If only I could talk, things could be different. I can only hope that once you’ve read this, you will at least ask. My Lady of the house, help me feel better, and I know you be happy for me too. Thank you. I love you My Lady of the house and look forward to seeing everyone who lives within my walls come home each night.

Now, you know what I would say to you, if I could really talk. All I can hope for is you will see how sad I am with my bland walls, stuff all over my rooms and nothing inviting for you to truly enjoy when you arrive home. Help me feel better, so you can feel better. Thank you, and I love you.

Note: This is how creative the mind is. When you think beyond just a wall, a floor, a room, there is so much more to discover. Today, your home is wishing for something new and different. It’s all about creativity. Hope to hear from you soon.  Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting – 469-261-0675. Our website is: http://www.accentuatehomestyling.com. From there you can reach us on Facebook and Twitter. Allow your imagination to open up and expand your home into a magnificent place of peace, joy and inspiration. Rita

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