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Image….It goes where you go and it talks!

Starting project.

RE.- Up and getting ready for a change.

So, here I am, talking about image, and I must mention that image has a place in everything. Everything you do has the  ability of making you form an opinion of “I like, or I don’t like”.  Example: you see a home from the outside. You form your opinion of what that home looks like on the inside or who lives there. There is an immediate feeling about that home.  Hence, your opinion is based on the silent image the house portrayed to you, the lawn, the appearance of the outside of the home, color, size, and other factors. This judgement is made in seconds, not minutes. The particular feeling about this house  will be remembered until something else replaces it.

It’s the same way when you see someone. It doesn’t have to be anyone you know. You look at a picture of someone and the opportunity arises for you to come in front of that person before any words are spoken. Based on the fact you have no knowledge of this person,  you form an opinion, perhaps based on how they dress, how they look, their home, car, way of speech and other type of preconceptions already held. This takes place in seconds!

Image is a sensory experience or a mental picture of oneself or an object. We are all in a place to make judgement calls when we read something, hear something or see something. We, often times, don’t  realize we’ve done it. How about talking to someone on the telephone that you’ve never seen, never met and know nothing about. It could be a wrong number. What does that person look like in your mind’s eye? You have an image based on the voice. Yes, it’s human nature. We react probably more than we act. I want to tell anyone who is reading this blog that image is a part of your everyday life. What we see, experience through someone else remains so unless something else comes to take its place. Image changes from one moment to the next. At times, it may give you a different opinion after the first reaction. The same applies to you, as a person. You see someone or someone sees you without any introductions; a perfect stranger. You size up this person in just a few seconds. You think you know a lot about this person, but really you know nothing more than your eyes can see. You don’t even know their voice tone, the colors they like, or wear most often, etc.

Image is fascinating. Your sensory perception begins to work hard when you are at a place where there lots going on. In a crowded place, you may see many people for the first time. You have already formed so-called opinions of each one; some more than others. You go to visit someone, but even before you reach your destination you’ve formed an opinion of  how things are going to go; who will be there and your thoughts of who they are and what they do. Then, once you’ve reached your destination, what are your thoughts? You may have forethought of what you think will happen and the people you will deal with. Therefore, based on that determination, you like  it or you don’t. Do you always have a reason why you like or don’t like someone or something? I like to write about image, and in fact, I will probably do a radio show about how important image is, and everyone has one. It is an opinion, or sometimes even a judgement,  by another person who you may not have ever met. While I speak of image, I want to be sure we all understand that it happens in silent mode at times. We do, at times, remember and still judge others based on the first image of connection.

It is almost impossible to meet someone for the first time and not form an image of that person. In fact, in my mind, it doesn’t happen. There is always an opinion formed for those we meet the first time to the 50th, 60th, 100th time. We are always making  judgement calls on one another, and none of us are perfect. Therefore, we should note we are connected to one another as humans, and it is normal and natural to prejudge or assume, although this is not a positive action. What would be nice is if we didn’t do all this pre-judging, and just let emotions and thoughts come in a quiet, good way. It is always nice to see if you can really find out the truth about what you’re thinkinghe people you hear about and haven’t met. As you can see this topic really interests me. I actually used to give talks to colleges and major companies about projecting  positive image. There is only one opportunity to make a great first (1st) impression. Why have I blended this in with my decorating? Because, it’s essential that people acknowledge themselves as a bigger part of the message the home is portraying. After all, when someone compliments you on your home or anything else, they have already formed their opinion about both, and they like you.

Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting offers online and in person consultations to assist you in building a decorating plan for your next DIY project. We look forward to hearing from you.

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Are you… (ahead of)… yourself?

Two minds better then one.

Two minds better then one.

Sometimes, I can get ahead of myself. Has that happened to you? Have you been in deep thought about an idea, something you propose and not sure how it will be perceived by others? What you may not understand about Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting is that we are a different type of interior decorating company. We love to explore various levels of decorating with our clients. When they think they’ve got their idea down pat, we challenge them to try something they’ve never tried before. This is a fabulous way to keep learning about oneself. What could be better than to learn something ‘new’ about yourself?

Home decorating and design is  bringing new ideas and processes of change into a house to make it a ‘home’. Our purpose is to meet with people like yourselves (our clients or would-be clients) to determine where their thinking is regarding what they want and anticipate for any space changes in their home. It is a great time to dig deep into your thoughts, use  as many resources as you have and come up with great ideas. There are many ideas out in the marketplace, and it doesn’t mean they all fit your space as you expect.

  • Here’s where we come in. I have a couple of analogies to share with you. How many times have you decided to try something different for a meal at home? You may have even had it before, but you want a different variation. If you don’t go to a cookbook or ask someone who has cooked it before how they prepared it, you will most likely end up preparing it the same way you always have.
  • Here’s another example for you. What if you have a rash on your hand (or other parts of your body)? You may try to put some sort of salve on it, or at the very least, try to find someone else who has experienced this same malady. But instead, you decide to seek professional help from a doctor to tend to your issue. This is best, because you may spend time applying all sorts of remedies to your problem only to waste time and money in the process. This applies also to the decorating process of your space. There is so much out there in the decorating marketplace. If you’re seeking ‘different’, we may even look into wholesale to expand your variety of products for use in your home.

In addition, not only do we care about you, but about some other folks you may personally know or are acquainted with. They may be elderly and/or in poor health, having to leave their home. We need to talk immediately. Contact us today, and we’ll talk.  Also note, we are excited to work with DIY clients. We want to know what your perception is  for your space. We can add to it, and just think what will come out of this collaboration. Come on, let’s get started.

Two minds better then one.

The point I’m trying to make is defining when you are wasting time and money, rather then working with a professional decorating company such as Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting. We’ll help you step outside of your comfort zone and find other ways of styling your home. 

How much did you pay for your home? I don’t really want to know. It’s just a rhetorical question. My point is don’t deny yourself from making your home what you really want it to be  by not examining the fundamentals of the reason for the changes. Searching magazines,  going to furniture stores and getting many opinions can cause confusion. Keep thinking about who lives in this space is the crux of the matter; it’s the determination of everyone having a piece of their personality included in  your plan.  When a friend, neighbor or relative has their home decorated a certain way, it only means it works for them, but not necessarily for you. Personality is a key ingredient and essential in decorating. Give your imagination a chance to be opened up to the possibilities for your space. For as many people that occupy a common space, it’s important to get input from as many occupants as possible. Let’s try it..together. Please fill in contact sheet and return to us.

The house that Jack (I mean you) built!

mkitchen counterDo you recall the house that Jack built? It was a troubled home that wasn’t suppose to suffer with so many negative outcomes about animals and people. What began in this rhyme with Jack building his house, soon turned into a fiasco.

What about the house you’re considering building or are you more of renting kind of person? What I’m trying to say is that is doesn’t matter whether you’re building or renting, you deserve and want a foundation that is strong and secure as possible. How would you know? What are the fundamental steps related to building a house when considering what type of home you end up with? There are many style and types of homes. Let’s inspect this process.

The house you live in or plan to live in begins with a mere thought, an idea or concept. From this point, it becomes a drawing or mock-up of rooms, closets, bathroom(s), kitchen, den, living room, etc. Houses come in all sizes, styles, shapes and built to specific specifications of the buyer or architectural prototypes to fill the imagination of what your home could look like. Big or small; it’s great so many more people will now have an affordable home they will enjoy for years to come. Some homes stay in families for generations.

There are some common terms you may hear about the building of a home, and with this blog, I will attempt to help with this glossary of words so when you hear these words, or someone refers to them, they will sound familiar to you.

My goal for this post is to make you comfortable with words about home and/or home building. You will better understand what questions you may ask as you begin the process of building a home or buying/rent one that already exists.

First of all, the most important question that requires an answer before any building begins or choices made about the type of home desired is ‘exactly what are the needs of the family’? There is nothing worse than to get caught up in buying and not have addressed every need or want (for that matter) before deciding what your home will look like. Will you need a small home, perhaps for just 2 people who do not want nor need a space  that has too many rooms, bathrooms, den, living space, etc. Take in consideration, life style of the 2 parties involved, and that will give you a clearer picture of the home you are looking for. Then, there is a medium size home that may accommodate a family of  three (3) plus or a bigger home for a larger family. Now, I am not at all suggesting if there are 2 people living in the home, it need be small. No, some homes are large enough with several bedrooms, den, family rooms, etc. and there are only 2 people living there. It could be for an individual living along. He or she just desires space to move around in. It’s always a personal decision.

Now, I am going to give you a few home building glossary terms to know when you are looking for a home. It doesn’t matter if you’re building from scratch or the home is already constructed and completed…ready for move-in. This list is not every item which may be used in constructing the house, but a general overall description of some things.

  • A/C = air conditioner/conditioning
  • A/C Condenser = outside fan unit of the air conditioning unit. Removes heat from the freon gas and turns the gas back to liquid and pumps the liquid back to the coil in the furnace.
  • Air Space=the area been insulation facing and interior of exterior wall coverings. Normally a 1″ gap.
  • Anchor bolts=bolts to secure a wooden sill plate to concrete, or masonry floor or wall.
  • Backing=the replacement of excavated earth into a trench around or against a basement crawl space foundation wall.
  • Backout=work the framing contractor does after the mechanical subcontractors (Heating-Plumbing_Electrical) finish their phase at the Rough (before installation) stage to get the home ready for a municipal frame inspection. Most often, framing contractor repairs anything disturbed by others and completes framing necessary to pass Rough frame inspection.
  • Barge=horizontal beam rafter that supports shorter rafters.
  • CO= abbreviation for “Certificate of Occupancy”. This certificate is issued by the local municipality and is required before anyone can occupy and live within the home. It is issued only after the local municipality has made all inspections and all monies and fees have been paid.
  • Cantilever = an overhang where one floor extends beyond and over a foundation wall. (ex: a fireplace location or bay window ) Normally, not extending over 2 ft.
  • Celotex= ™Black fibrous board that is used as exterior sheathing.
  • Circuit=the path of electrical flow from a power source through an outlet and back to ground.
  • Counter flashing= a metal flashing usually used on chimneys at the roofline to cover shingle flashing and used to prevent moisture entry.

This is just a small, small list of all the things that go into building a house. It doesn’t matter whether it’s being built today or built years ago. There are code requirements in building a house that are a ‘must’ from the building side of the business to the buyer securing a safe home.

If you have questions about other terms or things used in building a home you can contact http://www.HomeBuildingManual.com. They have a complete glossary of construction “language” that you can acquaint yourself with. It’s worth knowing, so you will be ready to ask questions of your contractor whether buying brand new or a pre-owned home.

Do you remember the nursery rhymes of the ‘Three Little Pigs? Each one built a house, only to have it blown down by the wolf. Not very sturdy.  This, I figured out as a small child hearing this nursery rhyme. Be certain you are getting a secure home. It takes time and lots of money to secure and/or build a home.  Their house crumbled to the ground with a little huff and puff. Do not make your home the kind the Jack built or the Three Little Pigs. Instead, make certain it’s sturdy, secure and every joint and joist is how it should be, and the home safe and sound for a comfortable life and lifestyle inside and outside of your home. Do the best thing for you and be safe. Making certain to check out the home builder and do not be afraid to ask vital questions about the foundation of the home. Many people just look at the aesthetics of the home and not the nuts of bolts of what will offer a study foundation of the home.

Make certain you ask many questions. Go to the HomeBuildingManual.com website and review the terms used in building a house. You might want to become familiar with some of the terms, so when you hear them, it will be familiar to you as well. Good Living! comes to you from us@accentuatehomestyling.com

Part 2: IS YOUR PERSONAL IMAGE A REFLECTION OF YOUR HOME?

  Today, our blog touches on the topic from a month ago: Is Your Personal Image A Reflection of Your Home?  Many readers sent me their opinions about this topic, and we had some great discussions. Thanks again to all who participated. I was so encouraged that I have decided to do a Part 2.

  Image in the dictionary says it’s an imitation, representation, or similitude of any person, thing, or act, sculptured, drawn, painted, or otherwise made perceptible to the sight, a visible presentation, a copy, a likeness,  an effigy, a picture, a semblance. Image spreads itself across lines into every part of life. Therefore, I feel it is an important issue and make a habit of exhibiting in a positive way. For the purpose of this blog, we are defining image as a personal likeness or reflection of a person’s image to their home image. Is Your Personal Image A Reflection of Your Home Image? – Part 2. This blog speaks to how your personal image and your home image are so closely related to one another. When you first see someone, without speaking a word, your thoughts begin to form and create who you believe that person really is. You may decide you don’t care for that person. What about the person’s age, where they live, how their home looks, what type of job they have, what type of car they drive; this,  all in a matter of a few seconds. What I want to point out is you cannot stop someone from thinking and forming their own opinions without correct information. Your home is a reflection of you.  A person sees you is exactly how they see your home in their mind. Does it matter? Probably not, but possibly so. Why? Because, it is much easier to spend a little time thinking about who you are, and reasons why you control the message you wish delivered. Do not leave that to someone else to do for you. Your home is your haven, your castle and your extension of who you are. Make the message real and true.

Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting is a different type of interior decorating company. We use ‘image’ as a major tool to complete the look of your home to represent the real you. No need for others to speculate, they will know just from your positive image; they will know that your positive attitude about self reflects the same message in your home life. We work with you, whether in person or through our E-Decorating process (online) assisting you in your Do-It-Yourself process of decorating. We believe image is purposeful to how you enjoy your home and lifestyle. It doesn’t matter whether you’re downsizing (a smaller space), up-sizing (a larger space) or right-sizing (staying right where you are), we work hard with you to help you reach this goal. You will feel empowered and reassured about how “we” reach decisions about the space in your home. We are your company of interest and image. We care about what you think, how we meet your needs,  and make it affordable for you as we go through the details of positive living in your home. So, the next time someone meets and greets you, they may be thinking how positive your demeanor represents you, or how negative they think you are. Please do not give anyone any reason for not thinking in a positive way about you. 

I want to express the fact that I have been writing and publicly speaking about the importance of  image in each person’s life for several years. I was a personal  image consultant and presented presentations to organizations and companies. I encouraged others to become aware of the silent message(s) they send to others. My purpose is to think about how you appear to others, so there are no regrets down the road. I am not stating this as the most important issue to you. It means sending a message you want to be remembered by. Then, the image you project will definitely count.

IS YOUR PERSONAL IMAGE A REFLECTION OF YOUR HOME?

Image

You probably answered with a resounding NO, but I would say yes. One’s image can tell a history or story without words spoken, and one’s home can do the same thing. We often say we really don’t care what people think, but deep down, we do. Someone sees you from across a room or interacting with others and decides they know you based on how you look, act or react. Someone sees your home on the outside and decides they know how it looks on the inside. It may seem like it’s something small, but image can be a big booster or a let-down for any of us.

 Awhile back, I spent a good deal of time talking to businesses and schools making people aware of how important their image was to their success in life. Unfortunately, it’s true. We are not quick to judge ourselves and correct our ways for the better, and we allow others to do it for us. When we leave ourselves or our home open for someone else to judge, we are hurt and sometimes angry. This happens even when you don’t ask anyone’s opinion. Who has the right? No one has the right to ridicule, but people take it upon themselves to judge, and sometimes they are making the decisions.

 Since I have been an interior decorator, I have treated my clients the same way that I did when I was teaching about positive image. I teach them and empower them to recognize that the way they feel and the choices they make for their home will have a reflection on them.  I feel the image of home is a true reflection of how I think and feel about myself (at any given time). I want things to be nice and in a place. When everything is all over, I notice I get stressed and not as productive.

 

  • The more I do interior decorating, the more I know that image is so important. Not for others, but for myself. For myself or anyone else, it’s a reflection of how we may think about things or it’s a point where you can see something is not right for you. You know that if you  like your home decorated and neat,  and suddenly is looks like a storm came through most of the time, there may be other things going on with you.

 

  • You may feel inadequate in decorating your home. Many people do. Ask for help. This is what I do, and so many others like me. We cannot know how to do all things at all times. I even ask other decorators for help when I need to. Never be too proud to ask.

 

Sometimes, your home reflects something that is not true about you. It has its own image, based on what you do with it and to it. It doesn’t have to be fancy, but it must bear the image you want to display for others to remember, and you must be aware of that image. Image is here, not going anywhere, and people will continue to judge. Be your own judge, and live with your decisions about who you are. Change yourself when you become aware that you are happier and more content when you take charge of the image of your home and of yourself. Don’t change because everybody else wants you to; change because it’s right for you.

You be the judge and think about your image. Does your home pick up your personal image? Yes or no?

 

What Would Your Home Say To You……If It Could Talk?

WHAT WOULD YOUR HOME SAY TO YOU……IF IT COULD TALK?

When I thought of this question, I knew it was something to share. What would your home say to you…..if it could talk?

 It’s talking to you right now, and you’re not listening. We all know houses don’t talk, but they sure give off lots of hints. Maybe, they’re hints we give ourselves.

I’m taking some liberties here and using my imagination to address this issue. I believe it’s a fun question that may involve some straight answers. What would you say if you had to answer this question aloud? Fortunately, you will not have to do that. All you’ll have to do is think about it seriously to know how to alleviate any decorating and organizing issues facing you in your home.

Here are some of the things I think anyone’s home might say to them…..if it could talk.

  • I have been feeling pretty neglected for awhile now.
  • I hear you say some not so nice things about the way I look.
  • I’ve noticed you’re gone a lot, working so hard, and what about all the extra things that must get done in one day? You’re not too happy when you come home, and you definitely do not have time for me.
  • You don’t invite friends over to enjoy me anymore. I used to get so many compliments. Now, hmmm…very little.
  • My style and décor seems outdated, plus I am a little bit frazzled due to the disorganization.
  • You have so many things tucked into my space. I recognize there’s no room for people to really walk or move around. It seems very cluttered; sometime claustrophobic.
  • What did I do to make you not like me anymore?
  • Would it be fair to tell you how much I’d appreciate looking more stylish?
  • I would love to try a new color on my exterior and/or interior walls, maybe even a better looking floor and possibly some new furniture and accessories. I heard you talking about a more modern kitchen and/or bath that would show me off. Sometimes, I get annoyed when you are in the bath with the old lighting, not so great looking shower, and by the way, please keep your clothes on. You’re not as young as you used to be, you know. I know, I know I probably will get nothing now for that remark. Anyway, I am seeking rooms that are bright, cherry and inviting.

I would really stand out and be noticed if my walls could have beautiful colors and décor on them. I can imagine people saying how beautiful I am. I would feel so good, not to mention how happy it would be to see you smile. Then, you’d pay me lots of attention.

This is just a few of my thoughts. I could go on and on. Now, I understand you are very busy. Believe me, I hear all the conversations. There are the many hours at work, running the children to their various school activities, evening meetings, weekend activities with  family/friends. There are rare moments when you have a little time to pay me some attention and then it’s pretty sad for me to hear the things you say.

I am asking you to please FIX ME. You have talked about hiring an interior decorator to spruce me up and make me feel like singing (if I could). I’ve heard talk about a company that focuses on homes like me who feel so neglected. They call themselves Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting. They can make me clean, stand out and be noticed, and yes, they will work diligently and help you set up time and a budget. You probably feel like you cannot afford them. They will help you figure all that out.

 Oh, I can’t wait! I’m getting carried away just thinking how different I would look and feel. I would say words like uplifting, sophisticated, glamorous and organized. Wow, just the sound of such words would show the sun beaming in on me more brightly, the brilliance of the new paint, my new flooring and not to mention the cool look of the room with the ‘just right’ furniture and décor.  Thank you, my lady for taking the time to read what I am feeling. I know everything will be fine now, and what I have to say from that point on will be something that not just you should hear, but it shall be a look that I will display for all to see. I can expect lots of people to come and see me. It’ll be like old times. I will be so well dressed. If only I could talk, things could be different. I can only hope that once you’ve read this, you will at least ask. My Lady of the house, help me feel better, and I know you be happy for me too. Thank you. I love you My Lady of the house and look forward to seeing everyone who lives within my walls come home each night.

Now, you know what I would say to you, if I could really talk. All I can hope for is you will see how sad I am with my bland walls, stuff all over my rooms and nothing inviting for you to truly enjoy when you arrive home. Help me feel better, so you can feel better. Thank you, and I love you.

Note: This is how creative the mind is. When you think beyond just a wall, a floor, a room, there is so much more to discover. Today, your home is wishing for something new and different. It’s all about creativity. Hope to hear from you soon.  Accentuate Home Styling and Consulting – 469-261-0675. Our website is: http://www.accentuatehomestyling.com. From there you can reach us on Facebook and Twitter. Allow your imagination to open up and expand your home into a magnificent place of peace, joy and inspiration. Rita

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