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ASK FOR HELP… Or Should You?

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Who would you ask to help you do something, or would you be reluctant?

    Have you hesitated to ask someone for help for fear of rejection or embarrassment? Why do you think it’s hard for some people to ask? Would you ask for help when things become difficult, OR  would you push through it no matter what? Would you just pretend nothing was wrong? I, personally believe for some it’s pride that may jump in and cause a person to feel embarrassed. Maybe, it’s just hard to accept help, and easier to not ask. I, your writer have had this happen to me. I assume that if I ask someone to help me, they would probably say… “I can’t.., don’t have time, no, maybe later” (of course that may never come). So, there have been times that I had to do something that would have gone much better with two people, but now, because I didn’t ask for help, it’s only me.

What is an idea? It’s a thought or suggestion as to a possible course of action. Ideas will be maximized when more than one opinion, suggestion or thought is provided. Think back, how many ideas have you offered to others, only to have them look at you like you’re strange, or ignore what you’ve said and go on with the conversation? Worse yet, they flat-out tell you ‘it is’

Since I am an interior decorator, I see this often when it comes to decorating people’s home or small office. People want to elaborate on their ideas for their space. You sometimes listen (good thing) and other times, your mind is telling “no”, but you continue to smile. I may say “that’s a great idea” only if I really feel that way. If not, I don’t knock their idea off the table, but I may ask them to elaborate more, as I interject with something that would be pleasant and add to their idea. Maybe it’s something I’ve done before, or thought about using as an idea. Nevertheless, there is sometimes when people are adamant about using something that isn’t going to do anything for the room at all. I’ve done it, and I knew it wasn’t anything I would do for myself, but it’s not about me. My point is not to be superficial, but recognize that the idea may be a good one…for that person’s taste.

So when do you actually ask for help? What would it take? Would you ask someone at work (who you weren’t exactly friends with, or a stranger (if it were necessary) or then, a friend or relative? Or, is it just easier to do-it-yourself? There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing-it-yourself, but think of how you could expand on your ideas with someone else? This is what we do to help do-it-yourself(ers) to see the joy and excitement behind sharing ideas. I really get excited with them when I can offer them a way of getting what they propose. Money is often the cause of not getting what they want, or picking something that they won’t be able to live with for more than a week. Do you know anyone whose had an issue like this or just cannot stand the choices they’ve made while in their decorative and creative mode?

Knowing when to ask for help…is not always easy, but it is easier than you think. And, you should! Most people never mind helping someone else when it necessary or needed.  Asking is the key. Pride often steps in before you and cancels out your thought to ask or the words to speak….Help!!! Don’t let your pride or mind-reading skills (you just know that person will say “no” or look at you strangely for asking) . You never know, unless you ASK. And yes, you definitely should.

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Are you… (ahead of)… yourself?

Two minds better then one.

Two minds better then one.

Sometimes, I can get ahead of myself. Has that happened to you? Have you been in deep thought about an idea, something you propose and not sure how it will be perceived by others? What you may not understand about Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting is that we are a different type of interior decorating company. We love to explore various levels of decorating with our clients. When they think they’ve got their idea down pat, we challenge them to try something they’ve never tried before. This is a fabulous way to keep learning about oneself. What could be better than to learn something ‘new’ about yourself?

Home decorating and design is  bringing new ideas and processes of change into a house to make it a ‘home’. Our purpose is to meet with people like yourselves (our clients or would-be clients) to determine where their thinking is regarding what they want and anticipate for any space changes in their home. It is a great time to dig deep into your thoughts, use  as many resources as you have and come up with great ideas. There are many ideas out in the marketplace, and it doesn’t mean they all fit your space as you expect.

  • Here’s where we come in. I have a couple of analogies to share with you. How many times have you decided to try something different for a meal at home? You may have even had it before, but you want a different variation. If you don’t go to a cookbook or ask someone who has cooked it before how they prepared it, you will most likely end up preparing it the same way you always have.
  • Here’s another example for you. What if you have a rash on your hand (or other parts of your body)? You may try to put some sort of salve on it, or at the very least, try to find someone else who has experienced this same malady. But instead, you decide to seek professional help from a doctor to tend to your issue. This is best, because you may spend time applying all sorts of remedies to your problem only to waste time and money in the process. This applies also to the decorating process of your space. There is so much out there in the decorating marketplace. If you’re seeking ‘different’, we may even look into wholesale to expand your variety of products for use in your home.

In addition, not only do we care about you, but about some other folks you may personally know or are acquainted with. They may be elderly and/or in poor health, having to leave their home. We need to talk immediately. Contact us today, and we’ll talk.  Also note, we are excited to work with DIY clients. We want to know what your perception is  for your space. We can add to it, and just think what will come out of this collaboration. Come on, let’s get started.

Two minds better then one.

The point I’m trying to make is defining when you are wasting time and money, rather then working with a professional decorating company such as Accentuate Home Styling & Consulting. We’ll help you step outside of your comfort zone and find other ways of styling your home. 

How much did you pay for your home? I don’t really want to know. It’s just a rhetorical question. My point is don’t deny yourself from making your home what you really want it to be  by not examining the fundamentals of the reason for the changes. Searching magazines,  going to furniture stores and getting many opinions can cause confusion. Keep thinking about who lives in this space is the crux of the matter; it’s the determination of everyone having a piece of their personality included in  your plan.  When a friend, neighbor or relative has their home decorated a certain way, it only means it works for them, but not necessarily for you. Personality is a key ingredient and essential in decorating. Give your imagination a chance to be opened up to the possibilities for your space. For as many people that occupy a common space, it’s important to get input from as many occupants as possible. Let’s try it..together. Please fill in contact sheet and return to us.

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